You’re in a tough spot. Loneliness can make people act in ways that others are put off by. You can end up trying to pull people in to help salve the pain you feel. It can perpetuate itself despite your effort.

I heard a saying once that is a hard truth that stuck with me. “If you want to be loved, be loveable.” Take stock of yourself and your confidence. Choose some areas for growth and accomplishment that you can get after independently. You’re in college so it’s a great time to build yourself with intention.

For example, learn to play music. Get into a sport. Find your interests and get after them with gusto.

Skills and interests will give opportunity for connection not just with people but with yourself. You can be so much more than you are today.