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If you actually want to know how humans works as far as intra-sexual relationships go you need to read the stuff that pickup artists realized in the last ~25 years.

Start with books from Rollo Tomassi and Rian Stone.

"The seduction community has done more to advance the understanding of intersexual dynamics in the last 15 years than the whole of psychology and sociology has done in the past 150 years." – Nick Krauser


you can have sex without manipulating women...
Calling that manipulation is just insulting the intelligence of women.

Acting confident, putting forward your best leg and trying to be attractive is not manipulation anymore than most other social interactions.

Especially since appearing desirable generally means your partner will have a better time. Few people have sexual fantasies about sleeping with a loser.

> Few people have sexual fantasies about sleeping with a loser.

More and more people seem to have lots of baggage from years of being used by PUAs though.

> Calling that manipulation is just insulting the intelligence of women.

When you see someone completely numbed to the constant casual negging from their partner, calling it what it is sometimes is the only way to snap them out of it.

We're all deceiving and manipulating everyone else all the time to some degree. It's one in a million the person that behaves 100% in accordance with their internal beliefs and values, and they're quickly ostracized or marked as eccentric and to be avoided.
My experience differs from yours. A good friend of mine recently used that word to describe me, and I genuinely took it as a compliment.

I believe that as a single dude who graduated into COVID, works remotely, and moved to a new state where the only person I knew was my roommate, I believe I have a fairly exceptional social life. I met a lot of people through a local maker space. The key is just finding weird people to be weird with.

I would describe myself and many of the people I interact with as being very genuine and true to themselves.

Er, what word?
Oops, "eccentric"
Who do we really want to trust? Long time grifters exploiting male insecurities and considering women as barely human, or professional researchers in their field of expertise? A mind-boggling question really.
Both are experts at reducing human experience to anecdotal categorizations that serve themselves in becoming a pseudo authority.

Semiotics is the better way to understand the complexity and layers of culture and philosophy that brought us the DSM-5 and “psychology”.

Ah, yes. The scientific method, just without the repeatability, also known as educated guesses calling itself a science. It's what you'd get from philosophers if you'd force them (incentivise) to deliver actionable results about philosophy. Also known as applied metaphysics of homo sapiens.
Whoever can make theories with most predictive power I guess.
Yes because modern psychology has a real good track record :clown face:
Which ones pass reality testing the best?

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