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russelldjimmy
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- If I happen to think of one, I will let you know for sure. Also, remember that on the internet, only those who have an issue with something will make a comment. There is always a vast silent majority of people who would say, “this is actually fine with me and I have no issues with it” if asked. It’s safe to say your title is not bad. There will always be someone for whom it doesn’t work and the internet has a selection bias to give only them a voice.
Edit: while writing my earlier comment, I didn’t realise that you were the author. I did not mean to say your title is clickbait. I was only trying to make a concession to anyone who thought so.
- I think many readers have a hard time letting go of whatever expectation the title created in their mind and then refocusing to try and understand the broader point. Not that I support clickbait titles or poor communication, but I do agree with you that it’s generally more helpful to let go of the semantic details as long as the broader point is understood. But many people choose to get hung up over the words (probably) because of an inability to self soothe the first shock.
- Thanks for sharing this perspective. It’s given me something to think about.
- One might argue that no one chooses Pixels for Gemini (yet).
- Thanks for clarifying. I can see what you’re going for and why the iOS functionality isn’t enough. Some feedback that comes to my mind:
I imagine that there are three personas -
1. one who wants others’ phones to be silent
2. one who wants to silence their own phone
3. one who is indifferent
Type 1 is motivated to download the app and encourage others to do so, especially if they are in the administration of that place.
Type 2 might choose to manually silence their phone. There is a subset of type 2 that might constantly forget to silence their device. This subset might be motivated to download the app.
Type 3 is simply not motivated to download the app.
I’d suggest checking if this is really a need that people feel and will be motivated to download an app for, or a projection of one’s own preference of order and discipline that one wishes others to have.
- I apologise if I’m missing something, but isn’t this already achievable with a location-based Shortcut?
- A video by Dr Alok Kanojia (Dr K of HealthyGamerGG) that talks about why software developers keep burning out.
- I downloaded and I love the concept and the design. I’ll be watching closely and sharing this with my friends! Could use a tiny bit of that final 5% of finishing touches but I love it anyway. Also, I appreciate how good of a first-class iOS citizen it is!
- Not just that, but it also appears to be stretched vertically!
- I’m inclined to agree. There is an underlying (mostly unquestioned) assumption that surely there must be something actionable to learn from the articulation of the history of other companies. But… maybe not? Just because we can clump a bunch of people and processes together to call it a “company” doesn’t make it the same (or even remotely similar) to any other company! Every company is unique at every point in time and space, and companies are made of people, who are also unique at every point in time and space.
Maybe the scary truth surely is that we are always on our own, and our longing for security and familiarity draws us to a sort of pareidolia - seeing patterns where there are probably none. Add to that a survivorship bias of a few people who succeeded and possibly assign causation to the correlation of having succeeded after following the previously mentioned articulations.
It’s late here! I’ll read this comment once again in the morning and see if it makes any sense or if the HN pitchforks are out for me ;)
- The issue isn’t with the approach. The issue is with the limitations of language.
I did a vipassana course a few years ago and have been meditating semi-regularly ever since. I’ve been through a few difficult times with my family since then (not materially, but emotionally). In those difficult times, my most deep traumas were triggered - sadness, rage, frustration, anxiety all came rushing out.
But because of the meditative practices, I had learned to “witness” these emotions rather than be completely consumed by then. In the meditative practices I follow, I’ve learned to completely sense my body and the result is that my attention has moved away from my thoughts (which are the source of most of our suffering) to bodily sensations. These resulted in situations which are something like, “Oh I’m feeling a lot of rage and sadness. My chest is feeling an intense, almost painful sensation. My breathing is heavy and fast.” Whereas normally I’d have thought, “I’M GOING TO RIP THIS F**ERS HEAD OFF!!”.
And guess what, when the power of the emotion is “seen” in this way… I began to enjoy it. Enjoying my sadness and anger.
EDIT: well these days, I realise I’ve been chasing that state ever since :) and now my challenge is to let go. I’ve certainly become a bit rusty since then, but I don’t give myself enough credit for how far I’ve come. The journey never ends! I guess one just takes life as it comes :))
- I concur! Once you know the rules, you can break them. I believe that jazz hits the most fundamental bits of music. Pure feel. And when someone “breaks” the rules but preserves the “feel”, it’s magic. It proves to me that there is something new, something beyond the predictable. It’s hard to describe. I love jazz for this very reason!
- I’ve seen J Krishnamurti say this so many times. I’ve seen so many neo-Advaita teachers say similar things. Yet, I believe I am barely at the edges of understanding what this means. If you would kindly share your understanding of this phrase, so I may have yet another perspective of this, I would deeply appreciate that.
- Oh wow, this is a thing? It happened to me.
- unassigned from a team
- report to no one
- no real work to do
- got frustrated and quit
I didn’t stick around till appraisals. I shudder to think what might have happened if I did. No one was looking at my performance.
- It seems to fit the definition of a PIP. If you’ve defined that every PIP must be a bad faith one, and this is not one of them, it doesn’t stop it from being a PIP.
- “Your compliment was sufficient, Louis” ;)
- It sounds like you have figured out a way to get what you want materially. It seems to be working well for you.
However, like the other commenter pointed out, it does seem like a transactional way to view things. It sounds like such a view was very helpful to you in your childhood, which - as you mentioned - was in poverty, and I can imagine that this makes one focus their efforts and attention intensely on gaining material benefits. The question now is - is your life still demanding this narrow focus, or is it possible to relax this and start to enjoy the more intangible things in life? “If all one has is a hammer…” - you know how it goes :)
Instead of seeing someone else’s generosity as a way to gain material benefit, can it be appreciated for just the generosity alone? Can the act of buying someone that “first gift” be enjoyed for the look of joy and surprise in their expression? It feels great to make someone’s day, and this is only possible when one’s attention is not focused on expecting something in return.
A tangential thought:
Sometimes people are not used to receiving gifts and they might be “overgenerous” in return because they got flustered at receiving a gift so suddenly. It’s not a positive feeling for them and the act can start to feel like “ransom” for them after some point. This is not your problem of course :) but one can become sensitive to such things only when one’s attention is not focused on “what will I get out of this transaction?”
> I want to be liked too much, and in my emotional core, I'm frightened. I don't think I'm alone in this.
This makes at least the two of us. Of late, I’ve been observing how frightened my inner child becomes when it perceives not being liked. I’m straddling the line between the temptation to feel relieved by being liked and the survival-level fear when faced with disapproval. Breathe in, breathe out, breathe in, breathe out.