> E.g. if you have a list finding function that returns X?, then if you give it a list of MyObject?, you don't know if you found a null element or if you found nothing.

This is a problem with the signature of the function in the first place. If it's:

  template <typename T>
  T* FindObject(ListType<T> items, std::function<bool(const T&)> predicate)

Whether T is MyObject or MyObject?, you're still using nullpointers as a sentinel value;

  MyObject* Result = FindObject(items, predicate);

The solution is for FindObject to return a result type;

  template <typename T>
  Result<T&> FindObject(ListType<T> items, std::function<bool(const T&)> predicate)

where the _result_ is responsible for the return value wrapping. Making this not copy is a more advanced exercise that is bordering on impossible (safely) in C++, but Rust and newer languages have no excuse for it