> the idea that, "Every should must come reinforced by a want."
I haven't heard that before...I need time to ponder and process that, but on the surface it sounds like gold!
The parents and town I grew up with were extremely religious and authoritarian. I grew up hearing how our personal desires should be ignored and suppressed, and only the will of God and authority figures matters. I think neurotypical people may be more able to function with such a mindset, but it's a losing battle for ADHD brains to try to force themselves too far from their natural wants/interests. Especially since lack of emotional regulation is a significant(but less discussed) difference for ADHD, focusing first on emotions and reorienting wants before focusing on getting the task at hand done might make a lot of sense for us.
I haven't heard that before...I need time to ponder and process that, but on the surface it sounds like gold!
The parents and town I grew up with were extremely religious and authoritarian. I grew up hearing how our personal desires should be ignored and suppressed, and only the will of God and authority figures matters. I think neurotypical people may be more able to function with such a mindset, but it's a losing battle for ADHD brains to try to force themselves too far from their natural wants/interests. Especially since lack of emotional regulation is a significant(but less discussed) difference for ADHD, focusing first on emotions and reorienting wants before focusing on getting the task at hand done might make a lot of sense for us.