bravetraveler parent
+1; I know it sounds stupid, but small things like snidely saying 'look who decided to show up' can have considerable impact with children. Made me really, really good at not showing up.
It's not stupid. Your parents are treating you with contempt. People try to jump hoops to act like that's acceptable but no one, no child, no adult, enjoys being treated with contempt. Now imagine getting that from your caregivers who make up the majority of your world.