> But these days, there’s nothing lovelier than a Saturday morning with a bit of jazz or classical playing, pottering about the kitchen, and then being tucked up in bed before 10pm. Wild.
Play with the dogs. Smoke some weed, a nice meal and play cards with the wife. Don’t need much more.
I lived in a nearby country for a couple of years and very quickly, the culture of Northern Europe pulled me in. People still want to improve themselves and their communities, they work hard at things they value, but don’t seem to be too bothered by small details or things outside of their control. It’s a very healthy culture - something I can’t say about the current state of my country (USA).
The things I want tend to be hard to buy in the first place: autonomy/independence of time, more time with my parents, better skills as a musician, a more kind and patient heart. I think at some point I developed a taste for the long game, the type where there is no limit on improvement.
I dunno, man. "Gray divorce" is rising, and I don't think Sweden is an exception to that.
>> GAME OVER is near and they should hurry up
still lacks the maturity that comes with age. Or take it as a compliment - you are not there yet. Taking this too seriously also diminishes the quality of our brief existence
Not sure about that. You should expect serious health issues to start between 65 and 75. That doesn't mean your good years are behind you. You're in "running out the clock mode" when your mind goes and you physically can't do things like walking without assistance. That's late 90s for the lucky ones.
In my high school text chat of 5 people now in their mid 50s, 1 is a leukemia survivor, 1 has various chronic health conditions associated with PTSD, and 1 is about to have a quadruple bypass.
3 spouses also have serious health challenges, including cancer and organ transplant.
6 out of 10 with major health issues. Mid freaking 50s.
Wondering when my number is going to come up.
The first girl I ever danced with (8th grade, "Beth" by Kiss) died a few years ago of some medical condition. A neighbor who was a few years behind me in school died last year. Had a headache, told his family he was going to lie down, had a stroke there on the couch. Yeah, you start thinking about it.
Isn't a lot of this due to drug overdoses? It's not like people in their 40s are more often starting to drop dead from strokes and heart attacks.
(btw I did try to tell friends similarly that half way is at around 35-40, don't look at 50 as start of the B side)