Thank you, I was reading https://github.com/monal-im/Monal/wiki/Considerations-for-XM... and misread the requirements, 0.13 is required for SASL2, not for cloud_notify.
I really like Prosody because it was trivial to reuse the same user store I use for Postfix/Dovecot so every email account gets an XMPP account automatically.
On Debian and derived systems, you can just 'apt install prosody-modules', and on other systems you can 'prosodyctl install mod_cloud_notify' or otherwise download it directly: https://modules.prosody.im/mod_cloud_notify (no configuration is necessary apart from adding it to the module list in your config).