I know this isn’t a firm rule, but there are many people in my life who I’m certain wouldn’t have a good grasp of how they fit into their family and community beyond fairly superficial platitudes.
Maybe this has been true in the past as well. I wouldn’t know.
As non-contrarian as it sounds, I'd argue that as someone who came from a small town, having to define yourself by your "tribe" last name is worse, because if it the "wrong" last name, there's nothing you can do about it. You can, within reason, change what you do for a living.
They have often gone hand in hand though, just as for example lawyers will discriminate against you if you aren’t elite educated.
No, I think it's more fun to rebel against the older culture of inbred villages and oppressive tradition
Yes thanks, judge me by what I do, not because some and some other people I barely care about
Sometimes it is illuminating to see if you aren’t running into a wall though.
In the distant past, when you met someone new, they asked who you are in relation to your tribe and family.
Now, they ask what you do for the economy as an economic unit.
It’s fun to rebel against the current culture by asking someone who they are instead of what they do.