Please make your substantive points without crossing into personal attack. That's always important, but especially when the topic is as sensitive and emotional as this. Certainly you're welcome to share your own experience—that's important, and what you've said about it here is important. We just need it to come without swipes and putdowns towards others.

https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html

Edit: we've had to ask you before about breaking the HN guidelines (https://www.hackerneue.com/item?id=30570715). If you wouldn't mind reviewing them and sticking to the intended spirit of the site, we'd appreciate it.